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A Nightmare to Remember.

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Long time no see! how have you been? what's new? How's life? Ever bump into conversations like this?  where you just don't know what to say because you really don't know what is going on in your life and why is it going on? why is it so damn hard to answer questions related to your life when you yourself don't know what exactly are you making out of this eternal drama? if you ask me I brood over so many things all at a time. it's like a pandora's box of thoughts except for those ugly demons that tags along. Recently I've been waking up each day with different feelings, some days I am in my Zen mode where hardly anything gets on my nerves and some days are just so chaotic where I don't even know why am I being so cranky and the next second I cry and Curse and pacify myself over nothing (Now I just blame it on my hormones ft. monthly uterus drama of women). Now when I think about hasn't been it always about chemicals Dopamine, Serotonin, Oxytocin, ...

Can I (not) Skip to the Good Part ?

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These days I am being active on all social platforms to see what's exactly happening and to my utter amazement everything is thriving under one principle. (will reveal later) Do you nag about feeling stuck at times? being stuck in a humdrum routine, at the same place with the same people, doing same things?  Eat, shit, sleep, repeat all over again and again and then calling it a life. you want to skip to the good part, right? (that's not entirely true but how do you know that?) Let me tell you : this is the good part. you are already at it. you need not skip anything. so what if you could not live the life you imagined for yourself? so what if you could not achieve your goals? so what if you couldn't make it to that 7 digit salary you still will be able to feed yourself, right? so what if you could not travel the world you still will be having a roof above your head ,right? so what if you could not make it to your desired college you are anyway going to get a degree, right?...

Why I stopped Blogging ? Am I Quitting ?

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had plethora of ideas in mind but noticed this trend that whenever I started weaving them in sentences somehow did not liked the entire idea and I used to backspace it all and stare at the blank screen for hours questioning WHY DID I DO THAT? Felt like I lost my confidence in writing, felt like I will never ever write a blog again. Thus, deleted some of the them out of frustration. (yeah, repenting silently in the corner now) But then I started writing long captions wherever possible, did some long random confessions on snap stories, tried tweeting some of my ideas in limited words, used to journal, started texting long paragraphs to people where I could have just simply put an emoji and end the conversation but the writer in me wanted to quest why am I unable to write just blogs? why it felt like a huge burden to press "PUBLISH" after writing my heart out even though knowing that I am good at conveying my thoughts through writing, I just couldn't do it. *no answers  foun...

THOUGHT Becomes THING

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We all often listen "'stay healthy', 'take care of your body', 'focus on your looks',etc but at the deepest level having a HEALTHY MIND is more important than having a HEALTHY BODY. In this virtual world of social media, we all are more conscious about how we look rather than how we feel, we forget to build our inner confidence first before doubting ourselves. Nowadays, every second person is being a victim of his/her own expectations which further leads to anxiety, depression, loneliness, inferiority complex,etc And within a fraction of second our own expectations causes disappointments and we end up complaining and cribbing about almost everything which makes the case even worse. Now, you know the cause why we feel low at times, we cry for no reason, talk baseless stuff of not being good enough, give negative self talk in our own mind which eventually affects our productivity and we do less in our job or at studies. So the question is how to tackle this? ...

QUALITY over QUANTITY

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QUALITY > QUANTITY Almost everyone will agree that QUALITY is way more superior than quantity but paradoxically very few people REALISE it ! No worries. Those who haven't realize ,I'm here to help. Just quickly answer, How many followers do you have on your social platforms? Let's assume about 1000. okay? Now, how many of them do you really know as a person? 500? Or even less? Well, how many of them are really in touch with you like talking every now and then, asking whereabouts of each other, reacting to stories, etc, on an average 80 to 100. Now, whenever you feel happy, sad, excited who is your go-to-person? Who stands by you no matter what? Who not only cares to listen but also understands? You might be thinking about your best buddies. Right? That's the point I am trying to drive home, THE QUALITY ! Those 5-7 people in your life are your real assets which will never depreciate by time We refer them as FRIENDS or Extended FAMILY ! One needs to underst...

STOP SEEKING HELP !

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      I was emotionally drained for months , didn’t know how to pull myself up from the rabbit hole, which I created in my mind (thanks to overthinking), So one fine day I finally decided to seek help from the person whom I thought to be my lodestar. And guess what happened? that person turned me down, advised me to help myself on my own. I was taken aback. That was hard to digest at first. It took me a moment to process because I’ve become that person, due to some circumstances, who usually don’t seek any type of mental support I rarely ask for help from anybody; Not because I am introvert or shy or anything but because I believe why to trouble someone unnecessarily when we are capable of dealing our own mess but it saddens me when I genuinely want help and people turn me down on my face telling that they have their own stuff to take care of (which is okay) I was back to square one “fighting my battles, alone”!   I realized it long back that its paramoun...

choose for youself !

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you know, I was just wondering is it just me, who is behaving abnormal these days or the whole world started going bananas already ! Everyone around me constantly striving for getting noticed, being updated with latest trends, catching up with the latest series; trying things in bandwagon and then captioning  it "by me" "my art", getting dressed for no reason(facepalm !) my bad, for Insta post of course ! swiping left/right on tinder in quest of their temporary soulmates, portraying themselves as a chef in the name of snap stories and strikes. Crazy, isn't it?   In a nutshell, they've lost themselves to the developers and became a product who is helping those developers become billionaires ! I, on the other hand, standing still watching these very same people losing their interest in Reality and unknowingly bonding with Virtual reality. I feel bad saying this that : " Nowadays, people don't consume the internet, it's the internet that consumes p...

How to deal with distractions ?

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  While studying HEAD:  "Should I check my fb feeds? are there any new likes on my insta post? Let me check for a minute..." After few hours HAND :  End up having long conversation on WhatsApp group, Done binge watching the Netflix, and continuing playing pubg!  After realizing it HEART : " Kal se pakka padhunga!" Once in life or should I say frequently this happens with us all We end up getting distracted by  xyz  stuff and the vicious cycle never ends. In this cut-throat competitive world its very necessary to have a focused mindset But then HOW? Well,you might have noticed I have underlined few words above  i.e  Head,Heart,hand    If you learn to allign this three elements you don't have to worry about the distractions, ever. Let's understand it step by step, HEAD  - the vision of doing something,the place where ideas grow. Decision making part. HEART - where we intensely feel those ideas, we fathom the intuition for complet...

you are not a "PROCRASTINATOR"

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"To be honest, I'm done being lazy, I'm done giving excuses from now onwards I am going to work hard, I am going to change my life !" How many of us have actually said this trashy lines to ourselves? I'm sure. MANY ! I was one of them. I was this person who loves to make plans and organize everything nice and tidy. but all in vein. later I realized that all that fake consolation was just to escape the pressure of getting things done. what happens usually? no matter how much I plan, it never used to get implement. we all can relate, we berate ourselves that we are procrastinators. we don't really get things done and escape the situation by giving excuses.basically we convince ourselves that we are good for nothing!   but the truth is we are conditioned that way. I was doing a research the other day and found that, our brain do not like any type of pressure or pain so it uses all its energy to distract us from our work. that's exactly where enter...