STOP SEEKING HELP !

 

 

 

I was emotionally drained for months , didn’t know how to pull myself up from the rabbit hole, which I created in my mind (thanks to overthinking), So one fine day I finally decided to seek help from the person whom I thought to be my lodestar.

And guess what happened? that person turned me down, advised me to help myself on my own.

I was taken aback. That was hard to digest at first. It took me a moment to process because I’ve become that person, due to some circumstances, who usually don’t seek any type of mental support I rarely ask for help from anybody; Not because I am introvert or shy or anything but because I believe why to trouble someone unnecessarily when we are capable of dealing our own mess but it saddens me when I genuinely want help and people turn me down on my face telling that they have their own stuff to take care of (which is okay)

I was back to square one “fighting my battles, alone”!

 

I realized it long back that its paramount for us to love ourselves a little more, to hold ourselves firm when the world isn’t ready to hold us, introspect a little, have patience, treat every single bad/ negative thought with love and compassion so that it loses its power of taking a toll on us.

Don’t you think we all are alone trying to accept that we are alone !

I mean constantly we want company whom we can rely on, we fear being left out. FOMO is the fancy word for it now. I wonder what if we conquer this fear of FOMO?

Won’t we become more powerful, because we won’t fear about missing out, we’ll be ourselves!

Either the way life teaches us how to survive even in the extremes. So survival is not the issue. Sooner or later time too heal us all and we learn, move on and grow!

The problem is we want someone who will understand, sympathize, guide us for our own mess But why do we want people around us to teach us how to survive in xyz conditions? Why can’t we make conscious effort to learn it by ourselves? Just focus what life wants you to learn. 

Instead cribbing why me, say try me!

Next time any problem arises don’t look for people who can help you solve it. Instead sit with the problem and quest its cause, its solution. It’s a tedious process, cumbersome as well but it will make you what you should become

you needn’t to fret over silly things like people like me or not, what they think of me? you don't need anyone’s approval or validation, you don't need anyone to appreciate you in your highs or criticize in your lows. You’ll start to feel that YOU ARE ENOUGH !

Life will become easy.

No strings attached !

“no attachments, just connections”

Because the former enslaves us with terms and conditions; while the latter liberates us from them!

So in a nutshell –“Fall seven times stand up 8, Learn to fight your battle no matter how hard it seems because no one will come to rescue you”

You’ll cry for help but no one will be there to pull you up and it’s selfish as well to ask for help to anybody because,

deep within we all are fighting the same battle on different levels!

so, be kind to all and to your self as well.

 cliched but true,

"GOD HELP THOSE WHO HELP THEMSELVES !"

Thanks for reading :)

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